FR: Intercepting Buying Temperature

Mango, Positive, and I had finished our daygaming for the day and headed off to a pub near Union Square. In the bar, we're each analyzing body language to see who's got game and who doesn't. An HB8 behind me is talking with some asian guy, and she's totally digging him. She's mirroring his body language, she's opened to him, she's even waiting for him to kino her, but he's not. We want to cry because all this AFC needs to do is grab her hands and he's in her bed tonight.

He goes off to the bathroom and we start leaving. As we're leaving, Mango tempts me: open the set, direct open, and see where it goes. He claims her buying temperature is through the roof and all I need to do is ride in on the wave. I go up to her and say, "Excuse me, I saw you across the bar and I just had to say, you are incredibly beautiful." She lights up like a Christmas tree and grabs my hands (instant kino!). She's from Barcelona, she is in town for a few weeks on business, and she's absolutely beautiful. I eject after a minute and return to Mango, who wonders why I didn't escalate. It's OK--I was so surprised it worked that I didn't know what to do (this happened to me a LOT over the weekend). But now I know how to read buying temperature and how to take advantage of it. The next time, I'll see if she wants to get a cup of coffee elsewhere.

Take-aways:
1) When a girl's BT is high, it's a lot easier to sweep her off her feet
2) Direct approach is AWESOME.
3) If a girl is mirroring your body language and talking to you with a smile on your face, she wants you. Kino her!
4) If I ever see that beautiful San Francisco Spaniard again, I will instadate her.
5) San Francisco has LOTS of beautiful women running around.

FR: Day Game Revelation in San Francisco

It's Monday, May 29 and I'm in Union Square with Mango and Positive. We enter the square and spot a few Art of Rapport instructors who are already targeting the unsuspecting ladies. The competition is fierce, but there's plenty to go around. The world is your oyster!

Mango spots a cute brunette sitting by herself and sends me in.

Mango: 3...2....1..... GO!
VW: No no I can't... OK I can. What's my opener?
Mango: Go indirect. Ask where the ATM is and sit down.
VW: OK

I head into the set and approach from an angle, slide my hand out and say, "Excuse me, do you know where the nearest ATM is?" I sit down next to her (not close enough, but close)

HB7: blah blah blah
VW: Awesome, you're so hired as my personal tour guide. I'm going to buy you a GPS, get you some maps, and you're going to show me around the city. Then tonight you'll take me out to the Marina District in a nice stretched black limo--one of those traditional limos, not one of those fancy Humvee limos.
HB7 laughs her ass off.
VW kinos, banters a bit.
VW: So what brings you out here?
HB7: blah blah blah
.... wide rapport .....
HB7: oh you know everything about me.
VW: I bet I can learn more about you than most of your friends.
HB7: OK tell me how. I'm a therapist so I'm really intrigued.
VW: Do you have a good imagination?
HB7: Yes
VW: Do you think you are a creative person?
HB7: Yes!
VW: Can you visualize imagery in your head well?
HB7: Yes! (thanks to Mango for the yes-ladder)
VW cubes HB7 for the next 30 minutes.

After deep rapport, we go back up to superficial and wide rapport, and then back deep a bit. I e-mail-close (didn't think enough to get her phone) and eject a few minutes later.

I'm super excited about this set because it was a turning point for me. I knew intellectually that day game is where it's at, but I had never gone far enough into any set to prove it to myself. After an hour in set with this girl, I finally assured myself internally (and not just intellectually) that day game is where you will meet your MLTRs. Night game is fun for sharpening your skill set, but if you are trying to build your harem, it's best to do so during the day.

Furthermore, it's easier to day game as the bitch shield is down and the hottest girls come out during the day.

Now to find the best day game spots in Seattle...

FR: San Francisco, Marina District, Friday Night

So I'm in San Francisco this weekend rolling with Mango and Positive. We head out to the Marina District around 9:30 and warm up on the street with three "hello, where is Bar None?" openers for warm up. We head into Bar None with smiles on our faces. We are charmed and dangerous.

I'm the visitor this weekend so the first set is mine. We spot a cute 2-set at the bar and I run my opener:

Me: Hey guys, does this necklace make me look gay?
Girls: blah blah blah
Me: kino, banter, story, more kino, more banter

I'm not really sure where I'm going with this set but it's going incredibly well -- they are laughing and smiling and having fun, and my target is having a great time. After a few minutes I eject and open more sets with the same routine. I'm definitely in state at this point and want to continue rolling. After ejecting from another 2-set and watching Mango working a 5-set of blondes all by himself (Positive went in to wing), I re-engage my starting set with more kino and banter. (note: kino+banter = money) I get a solid reception still and continue to play around, but I'm unable to isolate my target so I just keep going back to them as my home base set. I steal a picture of my new 3-set and enjoy the victory of my first successful set of the night. As I eject from the set again, Mango spots a 2-set of AFCs walk into my set, riding my wake of BT I created with the girls. Dammit! Lesson learned.

Later that night after working a few more sets, I return to my target (HB8) when she isolated. We instantly kino and I bring her close, telling her I have to get going but she should join us at the Matrix later that night. I run the basic hand test (squeeze her hand) and she responds positively by squeezing back. I'm about 2 inches away from her and I should have said "kiss me" or just gone in for the kiss myself, but it's too late now. I had 0 rapport with her but since she was slightly boozed, it didn't matter.

We head to the Matrix and meet up with probably ten PUAs running game at this tough stomping grounds. To top it off, RSD is running a boot camp tonight with jlaix at the helm. The competition is fierce, but unfortunately I can't remember what sets I opened this night if any. It's OK -- I'm fighting off a cold today and I'm a bit terrified by the environment. I am still happy from the 2-set earlier in the night.

Take-aways from the night:
1) Enter the venue with a smile ALWAYS.
2) Isolate your target!
3) If you leave a set with high BT, you have left yourself wide open for others to swoop in.
4) Run the hand test to guarantee attraction.

Always be playful and have fun -- that's what makes for a great time.

jetBlue Terminal, JFK

I'm in the jetBlue terminal with a two-hour layover before my return flight to the west coast, and I'm seeing a higher concentration of HB8's & 9's than I see over an average month in Seattle. Is there something about Seattle that keeps the hot girls away?

Too bad I'm exhausted from last night to run any day game here. It's packed!

Bantering

I admit that I'm a slow learner. I've read a lot of material from many of the gurus out there (David D, Mystery, Swinggcat, Juggler, etc.), but I haven't really been good at applying it because I've read too much information and haven't opened enough sets. So I'm back at my college this week, and I'm trying some basic stuff I've read from the guys at Pickup101. What I've been doing today has been some basic banter lines on some unsuspecting targets during my day game, and I've started to see how it really does work in sets.

For instance, at the coffee place today my friend and I started busting on the barrista for not knowing about the caloric levels in the chocolate cappucino muffins.

(We're at a coffee shop called Stella's)
Me: You're so fired as my personal barrista. I'm going to call Stella and she's going to take you in the back room and teach you a lesson. You're a bad girl.
Her: Oh no I can't be fired! I like this job so much.
Me: Sorry, you're in trouble now.

My friend and I went back and forth to get more coffee and food for the next hour, and each time we played her and she played us. It was a fun interaction each time and we were all smiling. No #close or anything, but I can see how she really was playing into our little game. I had had little success with banter on previous girls the night before because they were all drunk, but during the day when they are drawn into my reality, it becomes a fun game.

Anyway, these are baby steps, but I can start to see how if you know what you're doing, this can be just an ongoing adventure. I can't wait to live it!

FR: Senior Week, Night 1

So I'm back at my alma mater for its senior week and my friends are asking me to open sets to show off my PUA skills. The first two venues are packed past the point of fire safety codes and the volumes are so loud I have to scream to my friends. I freeze up since I can't think of any opener to use. So we move on to the next place, a casino night, and I start opening a few sets.

I'm decked out in my peacocking gear consisting of a cool Gap jacket ($30), a really cool cowboy hat ($25), and a cheap pair of aviator sunglasses that look great on me ($20). Some asshole starts busting on my hat, trying to piss me off but he has no funny routines to run. I, the PUA, am prepared to AMOG this prick and fire off to his friend, "hey this guy reminds me of my substitute teacher. You know the guy who comes in when the hot girl is sick and he doesn't know what he's doing". The friend laughs his ass off and I do some friendly kino to him (guy kino, you know, bonding shit). The asshole asks where my hat was made, did I buy it in a store, and I say yes, where do you think I bought it? Great question on his end, so I fire back another AMOG to his friend: "hey is this guy always like this? How do you roll with him?" The friend laughs again and says I dunno. So I prepare to fire off my final AMOG when I say "hey nice sweater." Then his friend comes in and completes my AMOG, "yeah his grandma made it for him." The asshole says "Dude you're helping him out!" I laugh and walk away, having won the set.

I head into the main room and pass by a 3-set of drunken college chicks when HB7 (face), HB6 (body) walks up to me and says she loves my hat. We jump to immediate kino and she's all over me, feeling me up and I return the kino. My wing starts busting on her and her friend, I run a few banter lines ("you guys are trouble, I should get a note from my mommy before I hang out with you"). I run the best friends test, they pass, and I try to C&F them but they are so drunk that it doesn't really matter at this point. I'm not entirely sure how to handle drunk chicks, so I feel powerless when my routines fail. I get really close to her, we're stroking each other's bodies, and we're about 1 inch from kissing. I'm a little shocked since this set went so well without any effort, so I can't remember the best way to kiss her. Of course all I need to do is run the Mystery Kiss Close, but I forget to do this and the second I remember it, her roommate comes in and says they need to go. I was successfully cockblocked and I didn't know how to handle her, so I lost the set.

Then on the way home, I run into a 2-set (also entirely drunk) of HB7 and HB8. The HB8 has those light sticks from the casino night, so I grab one and say "on guard!" We start doing a jedi light saber fight and are whipping each other when her friend HB7 interrupts and tells me to stop harassing her friend. I return that we're just having fun and calm down. She continues to harass and I turn to HB8, "hey is this girl always like this? How do you roll with her?" HB7 is pissed and continues to wax angry, saying she's going to call the police. I laugh and say whatever, you've got nothing on me. I run a few negs on her but she's so angry and drunk that she doesn't pay attention. After a few minutes, HB8 starts crying because HB7 keeps on the phone calling the police.

I walk away when a cop car shows up. The cop gets out and asks me to stop and talk, and we start into a conversation. He runs a power trip on me but I calmly return I'm perfectly sober and that this girl is annoying me. I tell him what happened and he talks to HB7 who called; HB8 is totally in tears at this point. The cop comes back and I say that these girls are drunk and need to go home, and that I was not harassing anyone but I'm not going to stand for this immature behavior. He says yeah, "fuck 'em" and they're drunk, so he says have a good night.

We get to the pizza place on the way home when the asshole from earlier and his friend show up. I try to be cool and say "hey what's up Webster?" (he looked like a tall, Indian version of Webster) My friend gets super pissed that this guy was talking shit and the pizza guy asks us to leave so we don't get into a fight. We get outside and wait for a few minutes when they come out, and the friend throws down his pizza and says he wants to fight my friend. An independent friend rolls in and says we should all calm down and not get into a fight. My friend is HUGE and would have ripped this guy's head off, but he's applying to med schools next year so I don't want his record hurt. We eject and I warn the Indian jerk to shut the hell up and keep it down unless he wants his ass kicked.

Now I'm back at home typing up this FR. What I learned tonight:

• I have 0 game in super loud environments.
• You must befriend her friends, even if she is all over you. I failed to do this because I was so caught up in kino with the girl.
  
• My routines don't work on drunk girls.
• Drunk girls don't understand banter.
• It is possible that some girls don't understand banter at all and rely entirely on their looks.
• Use the Mystery Kiss Close whenever you're in a drunk set.

Have a good night. Tomorrow is day game.

Prizing

I have only one thing to post this week: prize yourself.

I've been listening to Swinggcat's audio course and the underlying theme that Swinggcat reinforces again and again is that the man must be the prize that women want to chase. This is simple in theory but takes a lot of deprogramming to understand. Over the past 30-40 years, all of our media has portrayed the beautiful woman as the prize that guys must fight to get. As it turns out, women don't typically care for these men (there is no challenge), and consequently there is little to no attraction for a guy who prizes the girl. So in order to really get good at your inner game, start by seeing yourself as a prize.

Imagine you were the hottest and richest guy on the planet, and you could have any girl you chose. Imagine your interactions with any woman you met -- whatever she said, whatever she did, you would chuckle and be amused at her attempts to sleep with you. This sort of maneuver drives women crazy and is the opposite of what 99% of guys out there do. So if she blows you out of the water, laugh and say "that's so cute!" The key is, of course, to believe it, but fortunately you can fake it until you make it.

Looking back, this is a mistake I made with all my previous girlfriends who lost attraction for me. I felt they were the hot prize that I had "won" by being nice or whatever. From now on, I'm the hottie that every girl wants, and I'll be nice and let her have a chance to talk to me.

This is the foundation for all seduction schools, although Swinggcat is really the one who formalizes it.

Alright, enough theory for now, I'm heading back to my alma mater this Friday so I'm hoping to post some FRs or LRs.

How to Get Good at Pickup

In order to get really good at pickup, you need to dedicate your life to it. Here's a snippet of an interview with Herbal, one of the original members of Project Hollywood. Read the full interview!

What advice would you give to newbies starting out, in order to greatly accelerate their learning curve?

I could write a book here. Take a workshop, first of all. I was always too proud to take a workshop. I didn't need to spend money to get good. It's true - I didn't, but I would have gotten much better much faster if I had.

Now I'm fortunate enough to be friends with most of the seminar and workshop people, so I can sit in, but it's not the same. If I could go back and pay to have a real workshop, I'd do it. I had no idea how high quality these programs were (specifically Mystery, RSD, Pickup 101, and The Approach).

After you take your workshop, go out religiously. I taught with Mystery for a while, and the people who got good were the people who applied what they learned.

Also - dedicate your life to it. EVERYONE who has gotten very good has done this. It's equally important to take a step back later and see what's stuck with you. But in the beginning - dedicate your life to it.

I MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY to get involved. I had a house in Austin that I kept paying the mortgage on while I was in LA. I literally spent all of my savings on the deposit for my chunk of Project Hollywood and had no idea how I was going to pay the rent when I got
there.

You're not going to get good starting out two nights a week on your own. It just won't happen. Surround yourself with people who are GREAT (not your fellow AFC friends who are also learning). Go out a lot.

Pickup is both the hardest skill you'll ever learn and the most important. Everyone I know who is any good will say it's the most important thing they've learned, because it applies to EVERYTHING, not just women. I have better relationships with friends, family, and business associates because of it. Do what it takes to get this.

This is an inspirational interview. Please read it.

Again on Feminism

It's funny that everything I was taught about women (by my mother, sisters, media) is wrong. Feminists were always so angry that men would objectify women and treat them like sex objects, and I was brought up believing that. I never even thought of commenting on a girl's beauty in front of another girl, and certainly I would never want her to imagine I wanted her for sex! I remember the first time I felt up my first girlfriend down below, she stopped me and said, "Are you just trying to get sex out of me?" I being the AFC said, "No, I love you and I can't believe you thought I wanted sex!"

Of course I was lying to her AND myself because I intellectually believed I didn't just want sex, but emotionally and biologically I did! Juggler makes a similar reference to this:

You think you are being respectful [to women] but you are only protecting yourself by playing it safe. Women find safe guys boring. Take some chances and up the ante. It's ironic. Once you start creating more sexual vibes you will see that it's not even a risky thing to do but rather something women welcome.

It's amazing! Feminism was completely wrong, and what do we have as a result of years of anti-male propaganda? A nation full of AFCs ("a generation raised by women", says Tyler Durden in Fight Club). I guess that means it will be easier for me to score with women, but it's pretty rough rewiring my brain and deprogramming years and years of conditioning.

Breaks

I'm taking a break from posting my daily thoughts on the PU community, the game, etc. because I'm not getting anywhere right now. I am, however, excited to begin my training and identify with a guy who posted a review of the Charisma Arts bootcamp. Read his review here.

I'm going to stick to inner game over the next few weeks, and then I am going to unleash myself into the field again after having recharged my batteries. Night game in Seattle is so disappointing when it's cold out that I really just don't want to play.

Pickup 101 Gaining Momentum

Check out this most recent article in the San Francisco State University newspaper about Pickup 101. I particularly like how the author thinks Lance Mason et al. are so much better than Mystery or Style because they are real teachers (and Lance is a natural, anyway). There's a great line from Style in the article:

Strauss and other original pick-up artists had no idea The Game and the business subculture would become such a phenomenon. “We never had any idea that it would be so huge with hundreds of thousands of guys,” he says. He thinks it’s the beginning of a men’s self-help movement that’s years in the making compared to similar women’s factions. “Just pick up a Cosmo,” says Strauss. “There has been a culture of advice for women years in the making.”

This is another reason I think the community is great: it's a global fraternity with no dues. This truly may be the beginning of a solid men's movement to de-pussify our male populace. I was watching Fight Club last night and noticed some of the banter between Tyler and, well, himself:

"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need."

Then of course there is his kick-ass quote during a fight club gathering:

"Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who've ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War's a spiritual war... our Great Depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off."

I never felt so strongly connected with this movie until I entered the community. Wow! This game really is going to change my entire reality this summer.

The Road to Van Wilder

I picked the alias Van Wilder because his character in the movie is similar to what I would like to be: the guy who everyone wants to be, the guy who every girl wants to be with; charismatic, good looking, funny, and fun. When I chose the alias after having learned about the community, I was curious how I would ever become more of that role. Given what I've been reading about over the past few weeks, I am confident that yes, I will be able to become that person (or at least as close as possible). It's an exciting feeling because I never knew how I would do it, but now I am pretty confident I will. And it's all thanks to the basic idea of vibing. Game on!

Training with Mango

I've been watching Mango's blog (You're My New Girlfriend) for some time now and have really enjoyed his posts. I've rolled with guys in Seattle who use MM or pure C&F, but I haven't really felt the natural aspect of their game yet. Mango's game seems simple, learnable, and, most importantly, fun. So I've been in talks with him and I've decided to train with him for four days on his home turf in San Francisco later in May. In the meantime, I've got to practice as much as I can up here with lots of day game.

So what's on the radar right now? More inner game. I want to finish my inner game books as well as the Deep Inner Game series by DavidD. That should be the task for this week, as well as some Saturday day game and some Sunday Church Game. After I complete my inner game readings, I'm going to read the books How to Talk to Anyone and How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, both by Leil Lowndes. These books are both highly recommend by the PU community for improving your interactions with women.

By the time I finish all this inner game and a touch of outer game, I should be ready for a solid weekend with Mango. When I return to Seattle, it's going to be an awesome summer. Perhaps I'll even get to post my first LR. My goal is to merge my real-world personality with that presented in the movie Van Wilder. At that point I will have self-actualized.

Running into Gamers

My wing Valentino and I headed to Diwan to chill and enjoy some hookah. A "natural" guy I had met at Zaina (who had AMOG'd me by the way and stole my HB7) walks up to me and sits down to enjoy some hookah. Two of his friends show up and we start talking game. Apparently these three guys are some of the best PUAs in the city and gave us all sorts of tips and tricks about the game. They know the places to sarge, the way to talk to girls, how to avoid bitchy girls, etc. I'm really excited to roll with these guys and learn whatever I can.

They confirmed a suspicion we had about Seattle: this city is really hard if you want to run night game. While Seattle apparently has a ridiculously high female:male ratio, the girls never go out at night so the bars and clubs are always butcher shops. They reinforced our theory that day game is absolutely critical in Seattle, so my wing Valentino and I are going to sarge Bel. Square tomorrow.

I'm super excited to roll with these real PUAs who walk the walk. This should be an awesome summer.